I love to think. I love the satisfaction that I get when I think through something and come up with a great solution or a better way to do something. I love to think about the topic that I will choose each week for my blog. I can go on and on but I have recently discovered that my thinking could be vastly improved if I considered not only what I was thinking but how I was thinking.
“I first ask/pray for guidance and direction from God. Then I gather all of the information that I can find, ask others that I trust for their input and allow my instincts to come into play.“Barbara Jacoby
I believe that there is a solution for every situation that may arise and if you send a “problem” my way, I will find a solution. This applies to my own life. I cannot solve other people’s problems because I don’t think the way that they do and I know that each person’s response to a problem is greatly shaped by their own personal experiences. If someone wishes my point of view on a situation with which they are dealing, I can share that information based upon my perspective. But every person has to think things through for themselves in order to reach a conclusion that works for them.
Now after all of my years of thinking, I have finally found that I have continually made that process so much more difficult and time-consuming for myself because I was allowing my emotions to enter into my thinking. Sometimes it was a matter of what other people would think about my choice. Sometimes I did not trust my own instincts. Sometimes I did not believe that I had enough information because I wasn’t an expert in a particular area. And worst of all, sometimes it was because someone else told me that I was wrong about my choice and would try to get me to do something differently.
The more I thought about my thinking, the clearer it became that I cannot reach the best decisions if I keep straying into an emotional realm. So I have been practicing and each time I start to allow emotions to enter, I stop myself and go back to addressing the problem. If I feel that I need additional input, I will do research and I will discuss the matter with those whose opinions I respect. But in the end, I need to make my own decisions.
I first ask/pray for guidance and direction from God. Then I gather all of the information that I can find, ask others that I trust for their input and allow my instincts to come into play. This also applies to making decisions for breast cancer treatment decisions. Even with the input of your medical team, they don’t have the entire picture of your situation and what may be best for you. The medical aspect of your treatment is important but you may have personal factors in your life to consider as well. These may include financial obligations, your work situation, your obligations for others for whom you provide care and support and/or what your own instincts are telling you.
Therefore, all of these factors must be taken into consideration and only then can any decision be the best one for you, just like for me. When you make any decision with the knowledge that you did all that you could with the information that you had and based on whom and what you are as a person and taking into consideration your own personal circumstances, then and only then, can you know that you have reached the best decision possible for you. And that will always be more than enough regardless of what anyone else thinks or says.
Barbara Jacoby is an award winning blogger that has contributed her writings to multiple online publications that have touched readers worldwide.