I stopped making New Year’s resolutions many years ago. Year after years I set out with a list of things to do that would lead to improving my health or my looks or my attitude or my relationships with others And how many years did it take for me to realize that my success with these resolutions was mediocre at best but most often, a complete failure? What always resulted was not only my not accomplishing my goals but also feeling badly about not being able to do so. So I took what I thought was the easy way out and just didn’t make any more resolutions.
“I created a new habit of stopping any negative behavior and always refocusing on something positive as my best New Year’s resolution.“Barbara Jacoby
As the years passed, I came to understand that January 1st is not some magical day on which we can take on the world and make everything better or even different in our lives. I am sure that there are people out there who have succeeded with their resolutions but I personally did not meet a single one of them and ended up feeling defeated. So why did I continue year after year doing the same thing and expecting different results?
Well, I finally found my solution. I made a New Year’s resolution to be kinder and gentler to myself. I started to focus on all of the good things that I do on a daily basis that make me feel better about myself and eliminated anything past or present that did not make me feel better about myself. I do not participate in any activity that has a negative connotation or aspect to it. When such is occurring around me, I either leave the situation or change the subject.
This new behavior can’t be exercised perfectly but what a better life it has been for me and everyone around me as I live this way most of the time. I allow myself to sleep late without feeling guilty. I started doing more shopping online so that I am not forcing myself to settle for something with which I am not happy after going from store. I go for a walk and enjoy my surroundings rather than forcing myself to walk at a certain rate where I become so focused on that aspect that I fail to see what is going on around me.
These are but a few of the simple changes that I made to improve my life and ultimately improved the lives of those around me. But, most importantly, I created a new habit of stopping any negative behavior and always refocusing on something positive as my best New Year’s resolution. I created a whole new world for myself that is better than anything I could have done with the old long lists of the past and hope you will join me as I wish a Happy New Year to all!
Barbara Jacoby is an award winning blogger that has contributed her writings to multiple online publications that have touched readers worldwide.