When I started to write this blog, I had requested that Kirk set it up to reflect a classification of “Categories” so that I could address a number of different subjects. The first one obviously is “Creating Happiness”. However, as I pondered what I wanted to write about this week, I was suddenly struck by the realization that all of the facets that I would probably ever write about all pertained to this single category.I tried to think of other categories upon which I might want to reflect. I could address such things as getting ahead on the job or how to make more money or setting goals to attain a position of greater power or notoriety. But the more I thought about it, I realized that such subjects were those in which I really have no interest. To pursue power or money or the accumulation of “things” are not things of importance to me. Bottom line – happiness in my life is the only thing that matters and that is what I think is the greatest gift that I might be able to share with others.So for the time being, the “category” listing will remain with the only title under that being “Creating Happiness” – just in case I do find another topic at some later date. Perhaps someone might want to pose a question that I could address that falls outside of this parameter. I just don’t know what it could be at this time.I have found true happiness in my life and that is what I want to share. Now this does not mean that everything is perfect but then again, if everything was perfect, how boring life would be. Having challenges, facing them and conquering them is so rewarding. Of course, many times our efforts do not result in the outcomes that we might wish but having done our best and learning from our mistakes is an accomplishment in and of itself. It all comes down to being willing to look at the possibilities and being willing to explore new things.
Often when facing the outcome of a particular situation, it is easy to look at all of the negatives and allow ourselves to feel sorry for ourselves and to blame others or to think that we are not good enough or smart enough or important enough to affect the change that we wanted. But I do challenge you to look at every single one of those “bad” outcomes in retrospect and see whether or not that outcome wasn’t really for the best in the long run.
How many times were you passed up for a promotion or you didn’t get a particular job that you wanted or the object of your affection was not interested in you or you weren’t able to find the answer to a particular question that you needed to solve before you could move on?
But if you took the time to view those situations in retrospect, how often did you find that a particular promotion may have resulted in your not having a “personal” life any longer or you were glad that you didn’t get a particular job because you landed one that was so much better or if you had ended up with what you thought was the perfect person for you, you wouldn’t have been available when the right one came along or had you had a particular answer when you initially went searching for it, you would not have learned so many other things along the way?
If you take the time to assess these types of situations in hindsight, you will soon learn that everything always turns out for the best. Then you will not waste your good energy on the negative but will look to the positive and this will definitely make your life so much happier.