A Reassessment After a Breast Cancer Diagnosis

In Breast Cancer, Recent Posts by Barbara Jacoby

When I started to write this blog, I requested that it be set up to reflect a classification of “Categories” so that I could address a number of different subjects. However, as I often pondered what I wanted to write about, I was suddenly struck by the realization that all of the facets that I would probably ever write about would never fit into any particular group other than breast cancer.

“Bottom line – happiness in my life is the only thing that matters and that is what I think is the greatest gift that I might be able to share with others.”Barbara Jacoby

Bottom line – happiness in my life is the only thing that matters and that is what I think is the greatest gift that I might be able to share with others.  Perhaps someone might want to pose a question that I could address that falls outside of this parameter. I just don’t know what it could be at this time. I  have found true happiness in my life and that is what I want to share.

Now this does not mean that everything is perfect but then again, if everything was perfect, how boring life would be. Having challenges, facing them and conquering them is so rewarding. Of course, many times our efforts do not result in the outcomes that we might wish but having done our best and learning from our mistakes is an accomplishment in and of itself. It all comes down to being willing to look at the possibilities and being willing to explore new things.

Often when facing the outcome of a particular situation, it is easy to look at all of the negatives and allow ourselves to feel sorry for ourselves and to blame others or to think that we are not good enough or smart enough or important enough to affect the change that we wanted. But I do challenge you to look at every single one of those “bad” outcomes in retrospect and see whether or not that outcome wasn’t really for the best in the long run. How many times were you passed up for a promotion or you didn’t get a particular job that you wanted or the object of your affection was not interested in you or you weren’t able to find the answer to a particular question that you needed to solve before you could move on?

But if you took the time to view those situations in retrospect, how often did you find that a particular promotion may have resulted in your not having a “personal” life any longer or you were glad that you didn’t get a particular job because you landed one that was so much better.  Or if you ended up with what you thought was the perfect person for you, you wouldn’t have been available when the right one came along or had you had a particular answer when you initially went searching for it, you would not have learned so many other things along the way?

If you take the time to assess these types of situations in hindsight, you will soon learn that everything always turns out for the best. Then you will not waste your time and your good energy on the negative but will look to the positive and this will definitely make your life so much happier.