If you asked most people whether they want to become involved in their own medical health and treatment, they would probably respond that they have no medical background so they prefer to leave such decisions to the professionals. They might feel that it was irresponsible to even consider becoming involved in such a thing. They might even express that such an idea sounds absolutely ridiculous. But, if we dig a little deeper, we might just find that a lack of medical education has nothing to do with it. We don’t want to become involved because we are fearful that if we do and something goes wrong, it might be our own fault and we would have no one else to blame. We may think that we are not smart enough to do so or we may say that we don’t have enough time to devote to doing such work. But, it is my belief that there is something completely different that governs our lack of desire to become involved in our own medical care.
If we understand why we are making the choices that we are, it will be easier to make changes in those choices – if we choose to do so.Barbara Jacoby
Let’s just think about it for a moment as you remember how you felt the last time you were sick. Do you remember what you wanted more than anything else? If you are like most people, you wanted someone else to tell you what you needed to do in order to get better. You just wanted someone else to get and then give to you what you needed. You wanted to be left alone to sleep or relax or do whatever you needed in order to feel comfortable while you were recovering. You wanted someone to take care of you and you wanted someone to empathize with you and to let you know that they were there for you no matter what you needed or wanted.
Most importantly, the last thing you wanted to do was to try to figure out what may have made you sick or what you might needed to do in order to get better. If what you were experiencing was something like a cold, you just wanted to be allowed to rest and do things on your own terms while someone else brought you chicken soup, Kleenex, cough medicine, a glass of water and anything else your heart desired. If it was anything more than that, you would probably have sought medical care. But, if your doctor assured you that it was nothing major and that you needed to do a couple of things to get better or improve your situation, you left that office feeling relieved and with no need to make any big decisions. You had been reassured that all was right with the world and you went merrily on your way.
However, if you were given a diagnosis by the doctor that something major like cancer was the cause of your current health problems, your response was probably one of fear about what the future would hold for your life. But, in other ways, it was the same as any other time that you were sick. You wanted someone else to tell you what you needed to do, someone else to take care of you, someone else to deal with all of your other needs and responsibilities outside of the diagnosis and someone who would be there by your side throughout all of your treatment and recovery. The last thing you would want is to start researching your own disease or illness and spending your time doing much of anything else other than focusing on how you are feeling and what you can do to feel better in the moment.
This, of course, is perfectly natural. We want to be cared for just like our mothers cared for us when we were hurt or sick as children. We want our doctors to either come to us as they did during those times or if we went to the doctor, we want to be reassured that everything will be okay and leave with a lollipop. We don’t want to have to be responsible for doing our own thinking and planning and decision making. We want someone else to do those things for us. After all, we probably believe that no one else knows as much as we do about our own businesses or types of work so we can’t begin to think that investigating other options to our medical treatment and working on a plan of action with our doctors could even be a reasonable approach.
In the long run, it is always completely up to the individual but there are many reasons why people do not want to take on any responsibility for their own health. It is no different than receiving any other advice or direction from a doctor and deciding whether to heed it or ignore it. There will always be a reason or an excuse for everything we choose to do or not do in life. It all depends on the individual and choices. But, perhaps if we understand why we are making the choices that we are, it will be easier to make changes in those choices – if we choose to do so.
Barbara Jacoby is an award winning blogger that has contributed her writings to multiple online publications that have touched readers worldwide.