The “Thank You” Factor

In Creating Happiness, Recent Posts by Barbara Jacoby

This past week, I had the opportunity to work with a group of people to help all of us to learn more about team building.  There was lots of great information that we all received and that was further expanded with our team building exercises.  But the one single thing that I found to help everyone as they alternately split into different groups to work together was the acknowledgment of team members by others for their work and contributions.  That “thank you” factor did more to encourage everyone to work together than all of the “knowledge” that was shared.

If you look at any group with whom you are working, it is really important to recognize that you are all in that particular group because of some sort of shared tasks.  It doesn’t matter what that group may be because unless you all do work together and acknowledge each other’s successes along the way, you will never be able to achieve a great dynamic either in your own work or in the output from the group.  When you are acknowledged and rewarded for your work, you are driven to repeat that success so that you receive more rewards and recognition.

Now, that “thank you” needs to be real and passed out with honesty and integrity from the person who is doing the acknowledging.  I am sure that we all know people who give their acknowledgments with the same phrase over and over again and the same monotone voice that they use for everything.  By doing this, the praise giver loses any trust that the receiver may have had for the giver and it means little to nothing to that recipient.  But, if you truly give your thanks to someone for what they have done, telling what it meant to you personally and/or the group and deliver it from an honest point from within, you have created a real win/win situation.

This “thank you” factor does not only apply to the workplace by any means.  Think about it!  When was the last time that you told that special someone in your life how grateful you are for something that they did for you or for that matter, how much you appreciate having them in your life?  Do you reward your children with your thanks and praise for the things that they do to help you out?  How about your friends?  Do you realize how much they mean to you and then let them know that?  The list goes on and on.

I know how much I appreciate it when someone acknowledges my work and thanks me for my contribution and lets me know that who and what I am and what I am doing has value.  And there is not a single person in the world who does not feel the same way.  So I have decided to make it a top priority in my daily life to tell people how I feel about the things that they do that enhance my world in any way and let them know how special each of them is to me in their unique way and I know that I will definitely be a better person for having done so and my world will be a better one, too.

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