Memorial Day, observed on the last Monday of May, is a time to honor the brave men and women who made the ultimate sacrifice for our country. For many, it’s a day of solemn reflection, backyard barbecues, and the unofficial start of summer. But for me, a breast cancer survivor, Memorial Day holds a deeply personal significance that connects my gratitude for life with my appreciation for those who fought for our freedom.
Seventeen years ago , I was in the thick of my battle with breast cancer. The diagnosis came like a thunderbolt, upending my world. The constant uncertainty of my future drained my energy and spirit. During that time, I found myself reflecting on how fragile life is and the privileges I’d taken for granted—like the freedom to live in a country where I could access cutting-edge medical care and pursue my dreams. It was during this time that I began to see Memorial Day through a new lens, not just as a holiday, but as a profound reminder of resilience, sacrifice, and the connection of our struggles.
“The soldiers we commemorate gave everything so that I could have the chance to fight my battle with cancer, to survive, and to thrive. Their legacy inspires me to keep pushing forward, to advocate for others, and to never take a single day for granted.”Barbara Jacoby
As a survivor, I’ve come to view Memorial Day as a tribute to the strength of the human spirit, whether on the battlefield or in the hospital room. The soldiers we honor on this day faced unimaginable challenges, putting their lives on the line for the liberties we enjoy. Their courage mirrors the quiet bravery of cancer patients who fight their own wars against an invisible enemy. Both battles require grit, hope, and a refusal to surrender. This parallel has given me a deeper appreciation for the sacrifices of our fallen heroes, whose efforts ensure that we can continue our fight—and our lives—in a free nation.
Memorial Day also serves as a call to live meaningfully. Surviving cancer gave me a second chance, and I feel a responsibility to honor that gift by making every day count. I think of the young soldiers who never returned home, who never had the chance to grow old, start families, or chase their dreams. Their sacrifice compels me to embrace life fully.
This holiday also fosters a sense of community, something I’ve come to cherish deeply. During my treatment, the support of friends, family, and even strangers carried me through the darkest days. Similarly, Memorial Day brings people together to remember and honor our fallen. Whether it’s attending a parade, visiting a cemetery, or sharing stories of loved ones who served, these acts of collective remembrance strengthen our bonds. As a survivor, I feel a kinship with others who have faced loss or hardship, and Memorial Day offers a space to connect over shared gratitude and resilience.
For me, Memorial Day is a reminder that freedom and life are not guaranteed—that they are hard-won. The soldiers we commemorate gave everything so that I could have the chance to fight my battle with cancer, to survive, and to thrive. Their legacy inspires me to keep pushing forward, to advocate for others, and to never take a single day for granted. And this year as always, I’ll be reflecting on the profound connection between their sacrifice and my survival, forever grateful for the courage that paved the way for my second chance at life.
Barbara Jacoby is an award winning blogger that has contributed her writings to multiple online publications that have touched readers worldwide.