It seems to me that there has been a change in the atmosphere very recently wherein I have been seeing people taking more responsibility for their own actions and being truthful and honest.  I don’t know exactly what has caused this but to me it represents a return to better times for all of us.  I know that a lot of people believe that the only return to better times will be when the economy

For a very long time, I saw a surge in people not taking responsibility for their own actions.  They blamed anyone and anything when things went wrong except for themselves.  They were in a certain situation because someone did something to them.  Something went wrong and although they know that they were the ones who caused the problems or made the mistakes, they always blamed anyone else that they could.  Of course, all of these behaviors are based upon lies and the belief that anything is better than being the one who may be punished for the mistake or bad behavior.

Does this remind you of when you were a child?  Kids try to get away with whatever they can until such time as they are taught about responsibility and how to treat other people.  But, if no one teaches a child about honesty and responsibility, they will grow up with a set of values that tells them that anything goes and that you can do anything that you want and treat others however you wish as long as you get what you want.  How very sad for any child who has never learned otherwise and has become an adult with these beliefs.

I must say that just because I have seen a change in my own sphere does not mean that people everywhere have embraced these values.  But, I do know that for every person who chooses to be responsible for their own behavior and decisions and how they treat others, they are affecting their entire sphere.  Each person who embraces these values knows what it means to have self-esteem and a trust in knowing that if you do the right thing, you will always be better for it.  If you are true to yourself, you will know that you are the best person that you can be and that you are doing the very best that you can.  It won’t matter what other people think or do and you just may influence others to behave in the same way.  And when/if that happens, you will know a life that you could never have imagined.

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I have a theory. If each one of us took the time to consider the consequences of our actions before we said or did something, we could create a really happy life for ourselves. I came to this conclusion recently as I contemplated how to best handle a rather sticky situation with which I am currently dealing. Quickly stated, I recently had a consultation with a doctor to whom I had been referred by the medical group in which I am enrolled. At the end of the consultation, I was a bit uncomfortable with the way he had chosen to address the matter under discussion and as a result of his subsequent actions I had decided that I did not have the trust in him to perform a surgery that I would need. But then I started to second guess myself. After all, I am not a doctor. What do I know about this procedure? But, I just could not shake the feeling that there was something wrong and that perhaps part of the hesitancy on my part was that I didn’t want to confront the matter.

Then I became extremely uncomfortable about having to confront this situation but I knew in my gut that I could not just let the matter go. I knew that I did not want to create any type of a bad situation for this doctor. After all, he just wasn’t the right one for me but I am sure that there are plenty of other individuals who have been very pleased with him. I needed to find another doctor but I wasn’t sure how I should do that. I considered asking my primary care physician but I had called her and asked for a recommendation before I made the appointment for the consultation and she indicated that any one of three within the group was fine. So, now I have eliminated my PCP. In addition, I don’t think that I would have been comfortable walking into the same office to see either of the other two doctors that were in the same practice after “firing” their partner.

The situation was growing. This surgery was to be one of a two part surgery being done by two different surgeons. I had discussed the matter with the other surgeon before my consultation and he indicated that he knew the other surgeon and he even addressed the matter with him directly before my consultation. After the consultation the two doctors spoke again and the consulting doctor indicated to the second doctor that he did not want to do the combo surgery and after hearing his explanation, the second doctor called me and indicated that he was fine with doing them separately.

I called my second doctor back and am waiting to hear from him. As I wait for a call back, I keep running over and over in my mind how I want to explain the situation without coming off “wrong”. I wake up during the night trying to figure out exactly what I want to say and then I can’t go back to sleep. I am getting nervous with the anticipation. But finally this afternoon, I decided that enough is enough. I have taken into consideration all of the information with which I have to work. I have researched the names of some other doctors who meet the criteria that I need and plan to ask for a recommendation from my doctor when he calls. And if he doesn’t have a recommendation, I will just have a consultation with one of the other choices and make a decision when I have met with a doctor with whom I am comfortable. After all, this is my surgery and I must first consider what is best for me and take responsibility for my choices. It doesn’t really matter what another doctor may think about those choices. This is my life and I need to be comfortable and in a positive frame of mind in order to expect the best outcome. And that applies to every aspect of my life. Now I have a smile back on my face!