In Creating Happiness by Barbara Jacoby

Okay, so we all have them.  There is not one person who doesn’t feel insecure at times in their lives.  For some, it is a daily battle.  For others, as they mature, they learn how to put things into perspective and manage them.  But how does one go about doing this?


Most importantly, it is imperative to realize that everyone has these feelings.  From there, it is a choice to either give in to your insecurities or find a way to deal with them.  And if you choose to deal with them, it takes work, just like anything else that is important to achieve.  Although this applies to all areas of life, I choose to address insecurities in the workplace at this time.


Those who choose not to deal with them are easy to spot.  Their insecurities are mired in low self-esteem and the belief that no one understands or values them.  They spend all of their time and effort telling others how much they know, how qualified they are and how no one appreciates their knowledge.  They also blame everyone else for whatever goes wrong and refuse to take responsibility for their own actions.  And they spend their efforts in gossiping and bad-mouthing those around them who have achieved more than they have and resent anyone who advances ahead of them


Of course, they also choose to undermine other people who are successful and choose to withdraw their cooperation from the rest of the team.  They believe that the most important thing is to collect a paycheck and try to convince everyone else that if they are not being recognized that they will just show everyone else by not working and then everyone will see that the team cannot prosper without them.  And in their efforts to sabotage the operation, they cause resentment among their co-workers, do not get their work completed and ultimately have to be fired for their non-performance and/or the bad morale that they create.


But for those who choose to deal with their insecurities, the path is just the opposite.  For those who are feeling insecure on the job, they will rise to the occasion and go the extra mile on every task.  They do everything that is possible to be a team player.  If they do not feel that they have enough knowledge to do the work that is theirs to handle, then they do everything possible to get the additional education that they need whether it is in school or on the job.  They are wise enough to know to whom they need to go to get answers when needed.


Such people do not waste time in gossiping and talking about others behind their backs.  They realize that should they engage in such behavior, they are sabotaging their own status.  And if they are engage in making a positive difference and reputation on the job, they realize that their time on the job needs to be spent on the work and that there is never enough time to do both a good job and be a part of the bad behavior.


If you tackle your work and do the very best that you can each and every day, the sense of pride in your achievements will soon wipe away any feelings of insecurity and your co-workers and bosses will recognize your efforts.  Then if those who are insecure choose to gossip about you in negative ways, they will have lost all of their power over you and they will have absolutely no credibility with anyone else.  It is your choice!