Insecurities of a Breast Cancer Survivor

In Breast Cancer, Creating Happiness, Recent Posts by Barbara Jacoby

Okay, so we all have them. There is not one person who doesn’t feel insecure at times in their lives. For some, it is a daily battle. For others, as they mature, they learn how to put things into perspective and manage them. But how does one go about doing this?

“If you tackle everything and do the very best that you can each and every day, the sense of pride in your achievements will soon wipe away any feelings of insecurity and those around you will recognize your efforts.”Barbara Jacoby

Most importantly, it is imperative to realize that everyone has these feelings.  From there, it is a choice to either give in to your insecurities or find a way to deal with them.  And if you choose to deal with them, it takes work, just like anything else that is important to achieve.

Those who choose not to deal with them are easy to spot.  Their insecurities are mired in low self-esteem and the belief that no one understands or values them.  They spend all of their time and effort telling others how much they know, how qualified they are and how no one appreciates them. They also blame everyone else for whatever goes wrong and refuse to take responsibility for their own actions.  And they spend their efforts in gossiping and bad-mouthing those around them who have achieved more than they have and resent anyone who advances ahead of them

Of course, they also choose to undermine other people who are successful and choose to withdraw their cooperation from others.  They believe that the most important thing is to try to convince everyone else that if they are not being recognized that they will just show everyone else by not working with them and then everyone will see that those around them cannot prosper without them. And in their effort , they cause resentment among everyone else.

But for those who choose to deal with their insecurities, the path is just the opposite. For those who are feeling insecure on the job and everywhere else, they will rise to the occasion and go the extra mile on everything that they do. If they do not feel that they have enough knowledge to do something that they need to handle, then they do everything possible to get the additional education that they need in order to present the best of who they are. They are wise enough to know to whom they need to go to get answers when needed.

Such people do not waste time in gossiping and talking about others behind their backs. They realize that should they engage in such behavior, they are sabotaging their own status. And if they are engaged in making a positive difference, they realize that their time needs to be spent on the work and that there is never enough time to do both a good job and be a part of the bad behavior.

If you tackle everything and do the very best that you can each and every day, the sense of pride in your achievements will soon wipe away any feelings of insecurity and those around you will recognize your efforts. Then if those who are insecure choose to gossip about you in negative ways, they will have lost all of their power over you and they will have absolutely no credibility with anyone else. It is your choice!