I have been reflecting on the helicopter crash that killed Kobe Bryant, his daughter and seven other people, including the pilot. For those people who had a family member, friend, associate or colleague on that flight, how do you ever reconcile such an event? I can’t begin to imagine what it is like for all of the people who knew someone on that plane and the far-reaching effects that this incident has had on so many lives. And even though I don’t know anyone personally that was on that plane, I do know how this tragedy has affected me and how so many lives were changed forever in that moment.
“After all, our voyage here always provides us with many opportunities to do something over and over until we get it right but it is up to us to do the work and learn from the past in order to live our best in the present.“Barbara Jacoby
So much can be changed forever in mere seconds. In that instant, it doesn’t matter what any of those who lost their lives were planning to do today, tomorrow or any time in the future. It matters not what their hopes and dreams and goals were. The families of these people and their friends and associates are forever changed and all anyone can do is to think about what might have been if they were still among the living. For everyone left behind, they have lost a part of their hearts that can never be replaced. So many lives are forever changed.
I can’t help but wonder whether those who will not be returning were told how much they were loved before they embarked on their journeys. I can’t help but think about the ones left behind who never had the chance to say goodbye. I contemplate the possibility that unkind words or arguments marred the last time that they were together. And how many will live the rest of their lives with the pain of knowing that they were never really willing to share with their loved ones the true way that they felt about them.
I guess the most important thing always takes us back to the same place and that is to live each day as if it were our last. We should always take care to treat others with dignity and respect and to let them know how much they are loved and how much they mean to us. We need to share our time and space in the best way we know how. And if, heaven forbid, something happens to a special person in our lives before we meet again, we will have no regrets for not having shared the time that we had together in the very best way that we could.
I don’t believe in living with regrets. None of us is perfect and we will all say and/or do to someone else something that is not right. What is most important is not what we did but rather what we do next. Hopefully, we will have the opportunity to apologize and make things right with the person who we have wronged as soon as possible. But, if by chance, such a catastrophe ever happens in our lives and we have not treated the other person in the best way that we could, I hope that we learn the lesson to never allow that to happen again. After all, our voyage here always provides us with many opportunities to do something over and over until we get it right but it is up to us to do the work and learn from the past in order to live our best in the present.
Barbara Jacoby is an award winning blogger that has contributed her writings to multiple online publications that have touched readers worldwide.