Tuesday, June 18, 2013

I HATE Grocery Shopping

June 3, 2012 by  
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grocery feature 300x190 I HATE Grocery Shopping What use to be one of my favorite things to do has now become one of the most dreaded – grocery shopping. I would have a list of those things that I needed to get but I also loved strolling the aisles and checking out the new items that had arrived that would challenge me to create something new and different. I would watch the cooking shows and peruse magazines or go online to find some new ideas to spice up mealtime and make it more fun and exciting. Now it is more of a matter of grabbing something that is close by and downing it while

The more that we worry about food, the more we feed ourselves in order to soothe ourselves and it becomes one big vicious circle. No wonder I hate to shop now and if you see the bad behavior exhibited by so many other people in the stores these days, it seems to me that a whole lot of other people must be feeling the same way.

doing a couple of other things at the same time. What happened?

At first, I thought that it might be that I had gotten too lazy to prepare meals. After all, there are so many things that need to be done all the time that if you can get a few extra minutes to relax in the middle of the chaos by using products that are already prepared rather than starting from scratch, why not do so? Maybe the challenge of figuring out something new all the time got to be a bit overwhelming? Perhaps I had just lost interest in this activity in the same way that one loses interest in any hobby. And then it dawned on me that I had lost interest just because it wasn’t fun anymore. I had listened to too many reports about what was good and bad for you, what you should be eating and when and how and why and I had seen way too many ads pushing the ultra-thin look and all of the hype about if you didn’t fit that mold, you were such a loser.

I believed all of this propaganda as so many people pushed their individual agendas to make a dollar off of people like me who gave themselves over to those who “knew so much more than me”. One week it was to become a vegan because we were never meant to kill in order to be able to survive and be healthy. The next week it was protein, protein and more protein because that was the foundation of healthy muscles and organs and bodies. One week it was stop drinking coffee and then the following week you would see another study touting all the benefits of that drink. One week it was how certain types of sugar were okay but not other sources of the same product. And this went on and on and on for years now. I was now at the point where I hated food.

I recently stopped to think about all of this. After all, if we listened to all of these different reports or started to follow one of the latest and greatest weight loss programs, how is it that we have become a nation that has a higher than ever obesity rate? I believe that I finally understand. It all comes down to common sense. We were all taught the basic food groups and the need to have a variety of foods with reasonable serving sizes. When I give my body some sugar, it doesn’t know whether it is high fructose corn syrup or raw brown sugar, or pure cane sugar. Sugar is sugar. It used to be fun to sit down to a meal that was shared and “enjoyed” by everyone and consumed while having some light conversation. It was a social event

Now when we eat, we are so consumed with every single ingredient included in our food that we can’t begin to enjoy any of it. The anxiety over what we are eating only increases the stress and that increases the guilt. The more that we worry about food, the more we feed ourselves in order to soothe ourselves and it becomes one big vicious circle. No wonder I hate to shop now and if you see the bad behavior exhibited by so many other people in the stores these days, it seems to me that a whole lot of other people must be feeling the same way.

I think that it is time to end all of this. I was healthy and happy and active before all of the studies and hype was started. I felt good about myself before I was told I shouldn’t because I didn’t fit into a size 2. I enjoyed my meals and the conversation that surrounded them without feeling guilty if I added a little salt to my potatoes. I had fun living and laughing and enjoying an evening out without wondering whether those with me might judge my choice of a pasta dish rather than a salad like they had chosen. Food is something to be enjoyed just like so many other things in our lives and I am going to take back that enjoyment. I think that I just might have to head out to the grocery store right about now!

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  • Mandi

    I can really relate to your post so much. I am so confused right now about what to eat and what not to eat. I hear way too many conflicting thoughts on everything. I am doing Weight Watchers with my daughter and that seems to be a good fit. I haven’t really lost any weight yet but at least I’m keeping a good record of all that I eat. Lately my husband has been doing the grocery shopping with me and that makes things a little bit nicer. We go straight from church and then he picks out things that he wants to cook out on the grill. It has definitely been a lot nicer having company at the store. Thanks for sharing!!

    • http://LetLifeHappen.com Barbara Jacoby

      I think so many of us have had food issues for our entire lives and I just got to the point where I guess enough was enough. It is so cool that John has joined in the grocery shopping as that takes a great burden off of you. Kirk has been so great with doing shopping and finding things that he thinks I will really enjoy. I just love the time that we spend sharing a meal. That sounds like a good bonding thing that you are doing with Chelsea, too. It is always nice to have someone on your team. Thanks for sharing with me. It is always nice to know that I am not alone in my thinking – and frustrations.

  • Chris

    So sorry you have come to no longer enjoy shopping and food preparation. I know what you’re saying, but I have to say that shopping for food and preparing it is still a great pleasure for me. Being diagnosed as diabetic last year really made me even more aware of what I’m eating. I simply made a few substitutions and I’ve lost nearly 70 pounds since last September. Personally, I’ve just about eliminated “added” sugar from my diet, however, I still get it through fruit and a few other items. Instead of ice cream or pudding, I eat Greek yogurt (yum!), instead of a piece of cake or pie, I have these wonderful tasty and healthy high fiber bars that I found that come in great flavors. No more high carb milk – I now enjoy unsweetened vanilla almond milk (Blue Diamond or Silk) and it’s a great substitute. Apple slices (organic from Trader Joe’s) with peanut butter or a piece of cheese make a great snack and a sweet treat too. Instead of chips, I eat healthy and delicious nuts. This has been a real eye opening diagnosis for me and I’m loving what I eat now more than ever because I know it’s not only delicious, but it’s good for me too. I agree that the “experts” love to send us mixed messages, but it’s basically pretty easy to sort out – just takes a little common sense. Organic is good, nitrates aren’t, sugar, fat and salt in moderation, baked is better than fried, etc. I don’t want to be a “skinny Minnie” but it’s good to eat as healthy as possible without taking the real joy out of eating. Besides, I find cooking therapeutic. I’d really be out of luck if I looked at it as a chore because I like being in control of what I eat. I still enjoy going out to eat, but I’ve found that most restaurants offer some nice selections that fit right in with my way of eating. Food is one of life’s greatest pleasures, so I just think that maybe we need to find a way to enjoy it without sacrificing our health. Happy eating!!

    • http://LetLifeHappen.com Barbara Jacoby

      Great, and spot on, information here. Thanks so much for sharing. Congratulations on your great weight-loss success. Hope that the diabetes will no longer be a problem for you, if you have not already reached that point. What a great success and you are so right that it is learning how to be smart about your choices. There are always plenty of good, and tasty, ones to make. Thanks for the inspiration for all.

      • Chris

        Thank you for opening up this topic – hope I was able to contribute something! By the way, I was on a low dose of medication for the diabetes starting last September and my doctor took me off of it altogether in March because my A1C (your average blood glucose level over the past 3 months) was below normal. Now, I am completely controlling my diabetes with healthy eating and no medication. I hope this inspires some people to know that it CAN be done without giving up the pleasure of eating great food. As you said – it’s about learning how to make smart choices and there really are PLENTY of delicious ones!

        • http://LetLifeHappen.com Barbara Jacoby

          You absolutely, positively made a wonderful contribution here. So glad to hear that you have also had a positive outcome with the blood glucose levels being below normal without medication. I am sure that at least one person has benefited from your writing here. Know that you may very well have saved the life of a person and what more could anyone want in life. That’s why we are here and why we continue to reach out – in order to help and inspire others. Thank you and welcome to group who wish to make a difference.

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    • http://LetLifeHappen.com Barbara Jacoby

      Thank you so much for the RT. I am going to try to turn around my perception of food and as it would follow, my attitude about food shopping. I may actually make better food choices as a result.