Thursday, May 23, 2013

Cyberbully

Cyber Bullying feature2 300x199 CyberbullyOn Sunday evening, July 17th, 2011, the movie “Cyberbully” will premiere on the ABC Family network (scheduled to air at 8 p.m. & 10 p.m. PDT) and I believe that it is a “must see” for every person who is a user of social media.  This movie is addressing the growing problem of digital bullying and the impact that it has on our young people who are most often the recipients of this abuse.  And while the most tragic outcomes of bullying occur with younger people, this is a problem that can affect people of any age.

We need to understand that we are personally responsible for how we use the power of social media and how any inappropriate behavior can have a devastating effect on another person.

Many will say that they have the right to post anything that they want on the Internet sites because their rights are protected under the “freedom of speech” provisions in our Constitution.  They will also say that if they were not free to do so then there would be laws to punish them for doing so.  They will say that this is a democracy and they have the freedom to speak out and voice their opinions in any way that they choose.  Boy, would our founding fathers be so disappointed with this interpretation for the abuse of others based upon their intentions to protect the rights of everyone!

I believe that the use of social media brings with it a social responsibility.  In the past, when someone wrote something that was defamatory about another person, they could be sued for libel.  I don’t know whether the same standard would apply to postings on the Internet but because of the speed at which such writings can be spread to an enormous audience, the damage to the individual is often done long before someone can even consider holding the perpetrator responsible in a court of law.  That is why I believe that each of us needs to be responsible for doing everything that we can to stop this growing problem and to help those who have become victims already.

Tied to this movie, ABC Family and Seventeen magazine have started a “delete digital drama” campaign by talking more about it on air, in print and online.  By doing so, our young people will have the opportunity to understand that they are not alone and that there is help available to them.  But, we, as adults, are in a unique position whereby we can help our youth and our peers as well by setting the standards for appropriate online social media behavior.  When we see or receive anything that is in the form of derogatory commentary about another person, we should be responsible for not only not sharing the comments but also deleting them on the spot.  We need to understand that we are personally responsible for how we use the power of social media and how any inappropriate behavior can have a devastating effect on another person.  We need to understand that we are personally responsible for whatever bad outcomes result from this type of bullying even if we did not write the comments ourselves but chose to share and spread them.

Please join me in looking out for one another, especially the young people, and helping to protect each other from this new form of abuse.  We would do no less if we knew that someone was being verbally or physically abused and would never even think of doing something like that to another person.  This is no different.  If we take steps now to stop cyber bullying each and every time that we see it, it can’t be perpetuated in the long run.

If you or anyone you know is a victim of bullying please go to stompoutbullying.org or call 855 790 HELP.

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  • http://www.transcriptione-services.com Alicia Jay

    Hi Barbara,

    Once again, you cover a very important topic. Kids can be quite mean to each other. The internet just gives them a whole new outlet to do it in. I think it’s awesome that they taught a course in Mandi’s son’s school for teen leadership. Sometimes we need to remind kids (and adults) this simple rule: treat others as you would want to be treated yourself.

    • http://LetLifeHappen.com Barbara Jacoby

      Thank you so very much for your comments. I truly appreciate your insight and the support that you are lending to get this message out. So many parents just don’t realize what is going on. They have read a few stories about kids that have taken their lives as a result of cyber bullying and yet don’t even consider that the same thing may be happening in their own sphere. Awareness is most important and I am so grateful to you for helping to spread the word.

  • http://twitter.com/TranscripESvcs/status/94567780862541825/ Alicia M. Jay (@TranscripESvcs) (@TranscripESvcs) (@TranscripESvcs)

    Cyberbully – By Barbara Jacoby http://t.co/pUgjbMU via @letlifehappen

    • http://LetLifeHappen.com Barbara Jacoby

      Thank you so much for spreading the word to your fellow tweeters. I really appreciate it and am grateful to ABC Family and Seventeen for the program that they have created to help everyone deal with this issue.

  • http://twitter.com/Lillian4444/status/92944736998014976/ @Lillian4444

    RT @letlifehappen: A new form of #abuse that must be stopped! http://letlife.in/p73LMj

    • http://LetLifeHappen.com Barbara Jacoby

      Thank you so very much for the RT. I really appreciate your joining us to help stop cyber bullying.

  • http://twitter.com/familymoms/status/92715820374953984/ Family Moms (@familymoms)

    RT @letlifehappen – #Moms! Don’t let this happen to your #kids! Watch this tonight – http://letlife.in/p73LMj #parents http://bit.ly/p3JnDB

  • Mandi

    Thanks for sharing Barbara. My DVR is set and I will be watching it tonight or tomorrow. Bullying is my biggest pet peeve. Both of my kids were bullied and I was bullied some myself in junior high school. These days kids are a lot meaner than when I was a kid. And now they have more outlets to bully other kids. My son has had minor bullying on facebook but he deleted it as soon as he noticed. The bad thing is that not only is the bully being mean by publishing something on your page, but everybody else can read it which embarrasses the person even more. I just wish people would learn to be nice to others. You don’t have to like the person but you don’t have to be mean. My son took a class his junior year as an elective called “Teen Leadership”. The teacher told me that she worked really hard to get that class into the school. It’s a class about respect for others, how verbal abuse affects others, and how to be a better person in general. I wish that class was mandatory for every year that the child is in school. If kids aren’t taught this from their parents or corrected by teachers, it just gets out of control. I think this movie is a very important movie and I hope all parents will watch it with their kids so they can talk about it afterwards. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts.

    • http://LetLifeHappen.com Barbara Jacoby

      Thank you so very much for sharing your tremendous insight into this problem. The key word is respect. I am so glad to know that your son was able to have a class in his high school curriculum that taught him about being a better person. I love that a part of the title of that class was “leadership” as respect is truly the hallmark of a great leader. I think that if we continue to speak out as a group, we can all make a difference in teaching the kids what respect is all about. I believe that we can make a difference and the sooner that we get started, the sooner we can stop this problem before it gets out of hand. Again, thank you so very much for your sharing with all of us.

  • Megan

    Did you mean to say “On Sunday evening, JULY 17th, 2011..”, not June? Or did it already air? I’m a bit confused. Lol

    • http://LetLifeHappen.com Barbara Jacoby

      Thank you so much for the quick notification!!! Have it fixed. I really appreciate your letting me know.