Comments on: Domestic Violence Shelters Closing

By: Barbara Jacoby

Barbara Jacoby — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 04:48:35 +0000

You help in creating such an organization would be appreciated so much more than you would ever know. If you are willing to do such a thing, please know that you have the love and support and prayers from tons of people out here who would be willing to help in any way possible. I hope that you give it really serious consideration. It is really needed. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here.

By: Toya

Toya — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 04:40:46 +0000

This is really sad I was just thinking about starting a not for profit organization for abuse victims. I live in California. Something has to be done to help the victims. I know God is able.

By: Barbara Jacoby

Barbara Jacoby — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 23:10:36 +0000

Your comments express something that I have been trying to say for so long. Thank you so very much.

By: Roschelle

Roschelle — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 21:13:35 +0000

As a woman who suffered through years of physical abuse, I find this extremely sad. Women so often feel they don’t have any place to go and would wind up on the streets if they did the only logical thing which is leave. However, anyone who’s endured an abusive relationship knows doing the right thing is often easier said than done.

By: Barbara Jacoby

Barbara Jacoby — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 20:05:16 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and the idea of going to a local church for help. Your posting of that information has already helped at least one wonam with several children and an unborn child to seek out this alternative in her escape from her abuser. I am sure that it will help many more and for that I am so very grateful. You have certainly made a difference.

By: Barbara Jacoby

Barbara Jacoby — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 19:56:33 +0000

Thank you so much for posting your comments. I am so happy that you are in a recovery program and that you are sharing your experience with abuse through your book so that others know that they are not alone. Much success to you both personally and professionally in the future.

By: Kate Genovese

Kate Genovese — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 15:02:37 +0000

Good article on the cuts in programs for women and children. i’m from Massachusetts and in recovery program for abuse at my church-these things and housing are so needed! I wrote a book, TWO WEEKS SINCE MY LAST CONFESSION-it deals with sexual abuse but also physical abuse in one of the characters. I did alot of research for the book on these topics and it is amzing how much abuse is happening STILL and how much has been going on through the years.

Kate

By: Rina T.

Rina T. — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 08:24:23 +0000

It is heart breaking to hear of these stories. But there is hope you can walk into just about any church and explain what is happening to you. I have been going to my church for 6 years now and they will help anyone that just walks up and asks for help. There is more out there I know of at least four other ones that are in my city alone that help with things like this. Don’t feel guilty for asking for help from other people as well, I once let a woman I did not know to stay in my home as a hiding place, there is people like me that are survivors of abuse that are willing to help by any means necessary. Believe me I know what it is like to live in fear, the fear of being killed, or your children being harmed, but you also have to understand that if you let you abuser to continue to believe that you are scared of them they feed on it, they love it, because they know that you are still there’s. Don’t let them do that to you, you can still get out even without the help of the cops or the shelters. I did I know others can too

By: Terica M.

Terica M. — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 08:21:32 +0000

i agree with u on the subject me being a victim for many years of domestic violence and just this past Friday i was beat up once again while im pregnant by my baby’s dad !! i finally got the courage to press charges but now im scared cus i have no where to go !! me or my kids !! we are still here in the house i shared with my ex for a few more days til they kick us out but we have no where to go after that and im so scared right now cus the cops let him get out already after one day of being in jail and im afraid he is going to come back home and kill me or hurt me cus i pressed charges on him and he want me to loss our baby his baby that im pregnant with just so he doesnt have to pay childsupport which i dont understand cus he is the one that forced me to get pregnant for the second time already !! but any how i just really want everyone to realize shelters are important especially to gurls like me cus we have no where to turn and thats how we wind up dead by our abusers !!! and also with the cops not wanted to get involved it makes it worse for us !!!! thanks much love Terica !!!!!!!! we need help please everyone this is real and happens all the time !!

By: Slavic Mermaid

Slavic Mermaid — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 08:17:47 +0000

this part is briliant : “We need to protect the civil rights of the abused just as we would protect any other citizen who had been physically attacked by someone else. ” Ppl are brainwashed to blame the victims, b/c that helps to derail attention AWAY from thinking about CIVIL RIGHTS — both adults’ and children’s civil rights, as though only certain ppl ‘deserved’ to be helped…It bothers me to think that police is more interested in chasing pot-heads than protecting women and children from violence…*** I agree with the article … (I am a survivor myself, did not qualify for the shelter b/c my older sons were over 12 years old! some shelters accept boys under 6 years of age only!)