What I Want
July 19, 2009 by Barbara Jacoby
Filed under Creating Happiness
As I wrote last week, I have spent the last couple of weeks reflecting upon my life and one question had come to my mind – if I could have any ONE thing to come into my life at this moment, what would it be? At the same time, I had asked you to answer the same question before I revealed my wish to you and I am grateful that I did as your responses confirmed that I really was on the right track.
For those who come here on a regular basis, you have already discovered that I am here for one purpose and that is to help and support anyone who would like to “talk”. Each week, I discover more and more wonderful friends with whom I can share and understand some of our mutual experiences in life. Regardless in which form they appear, mostly everyone has some things that have happened in their lives that they would like to share and discuss with others who have had the same experiences. When you do, you don’t feel so alone or ashamed or isolated and so on. This brings me to share with you what I want.
I want to have a life where I can spend my time in communications with those who need my help. While I do not have a degree in psychology or psychiatry, I do believe that I am in a position to help in ways that no other person can because of my life experiences. I know how hard it is to go inside and find the answers for questions that haven’t even been asked. I know about the essential goodness in each person and the barriers that we create to protect ourselves. I know how hard it is to create new habits wherein we realize we are not all of the awful things that someone has told us that we are. And I know how rewarding it is to do the work necessary to create a new life for yourself that is built on self-love and self-respect.
The other part of this wish is that in order to do what I want, I need to find a way to make it my work on a full-time basis, not just when I can find some time during the day and on weekends. And although at this moment I haven’t the slightest idea of how to make this happen, I know that there is a way and that the answer will come as always and more than likely, when I least expect it. In the interim, I will do my best to keep up the correspondence with all that choose to write and I want you to know that for as much as you think that I have helped you, you can’t begin to imagine how much you have all helped me. For that I thank you so very much and know that I am eternally grateful.
You definitely don’t have to have a psychology degree to help others. When you experience something horrible and then come through to the other side, you have the wisdom of life experiences to help others. That to me is worth more than a psychology degree. I know my therapist understands me and helps me a lot. But unless she has experienced some of what I’ve been through, she can only imagine how it feels. I think your wish to help others is a wonderful gift to everybody that you touch in life. As you said, things have a way of working out when you least expect it. So maybe in time you will find the answers. Thanks so much for sharing your life with me. I appreciate all of your encouragement and words of wisdom.
Dear Barbara,
Upon reading this article/blog, you have inspired me as well. I have often told my family and friends that the one thing in life I would love to do is to help at least one person.
Barbara, I can see myself in your writing. My problem is that I still lack the confidence to step forward. Not only that, stepping forward means changes. My EXCUSE I often use is that I simply have too much going on and absolutely no time!!
My inspiration also comes from knowing that God has given me a gift to write, experiences to share, and so forth.
My hope for you is that you will experience the joy of doing what you want. Experience has taught me that some of the ways we are called to do what we want may not be what we thought we wanted to get there.
Anyhow, I just wanted to let you know that I enjoyed reading this piece and to encourage you to keep reaching for your goals!!! Thank you for sharing!
Sincerely,
Shirley